Valentine's Day, Valentine's Day, Valentine's Day. What can I say about Valentine's Day? Apart from the fact it is a day completely driven by 'romantics' that believe because they bought their girlfriend/boyfriend an expensive gift, they instantly become the best relationship partner in the world, Valentine's Day is amazing.
Now, I agree with the premise of Valentine's Day. Showing someone that you love them, fantastic. However, I do not aree with the fact that so many people believe that if they show it on one day of the year, they are free for the rest of the year. If you love someone enough to buy them a $3000 bracelet on Valentine's day, why not show it more often?
Now, there is one other thing that really annoys me about Valentine's day. And it is the, usually, kids, who are able to pluck up the courage to sell someone they like, that they like them, on this one day. Really, there is no difference between February 14th and February 15th. Why, all of a sudden, do you find bravery? Is it bravery? Well, maybe it's just trying to escape the "I'm single on Valentine's Day, I feel like shit" feeling.
Oh yeah, I guess that's bad as well. Valentine's day is essentially a day that makes most single people feel like crap. Yeah, just wait for all the facebook status' and wall posts. "I love you, baby" "Happy Valentine's Day baby." So, I guess, what I'm attempting to show here is my distaste for Valentine's Day. Maybe, if I wasn't so single, I wouldn't feel the way I do tonight. But, I really do not like Valentine's Day. So. Sue. Me.
whilst i agree that valentines day can be awful for some people, i'd like to say two things. first, addressing the courage issue referred to in paragraph 3. it's not such a bad thing to make v-day the day you declare your unspoken feelings to someone, if a date is what it takes to get people to do that, so be it. at least they're speaking out, unlike others who spend forever in the land of if-only. secondly, valentines day can be bad for the loved-up as well. imagine the pressure of having to come up with a romantic guesture to really sweep your partner off their feet, and this pressure is only made worse by the commercial hype surrounding this one day.
ReplyDeletenow here's an idea: why don't we move v-day to fb 29th, so it only occurs once every four years?
I'm going to be honest, I was in quite a bad mood when I wwrote this particular post. Don't get me wrong, I am still not a fan of Valentine's Day.
ReplyDeleteYou know me very well, Valentine's Day tortures me! And, I do agree that it is not a terrible thing to declare your unspoken feelings, even if it is influenced by a day. However, the reason I am not a huge fan of it is... Chances are if you were unable to declare said feelings on a regular day before, then you won't be able to after Valentine's Day. So, to be honest, that's not really a deficiency of Valentine's Day, but maybe the culture that we live in, where people feel fearful about telling someone else how they feel. Therefore, maybe it should not have been included in a rant about Valentine's Day, but it just tied in so well. I do agree that it is better than being in the land of if-only. Hell, I live in that world a lot, and it's painful.
The pressure of choosing a gift can be difficult to work your way around. However, having been in both situations, like most people have, I find it far worse to be single on Valentine's Day.
And about moving it... It could be done, but it's too long a process. I'd prefer to just complain for two weeks a year :)
i totally agree with you there. and i know how it feels to look around at all the loved-up couples on a day when they are extra-specially loved-up and feel so alone...it kind of sucks. my suggestion for a cure: do something awesome on v-day with your single friends! i myself will be going on a date with two of my dearest friends, and we will have a ball. anyway, i understand for some people it's a crappy day, but it's one day a year and it'll be over in 24 hours :)
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